Wednesday, October 22, 2008

Quarter-life crisis at 29

What is Quarter-life crisis?
According to the ever reliable wikipedia, quarter-life crisis is...
-a term applied to the period of life immediately following the major changes of adolescence, usually ranging from the early twenties to the early thirties.
The following are the characteristics of quarter-life crisis...
  • feeling "not good enough" because one can't find a job that is at one's academic/intellectual level frustration with relationships, the working world, and finding a suitable job or career
  • confusion of identity
  • insecurity regarding the near future
  • insecurity concerning long-term plans, life goals
  • insecurity regarding present accomplishments
  • re-evaluation of close interpersonal relationships
  • disappointment with one's job
  • nostalgia for university, college, high school or elementary school life
  • tendency to hold stronger opinions
  • boredom with social interactions
  • loss of closeness to high school and college friends
  • financially-rooted stress (overwhelming college loans, unanticipatedly high cost of living, etc.)
  • loneliness desire to have children
  • a sense that everyone is, somehow, doing better than you

I have at least 6 out of these 14 characteristics and I guess papasa na may quarter-life crisis ako ngayon... I thought of writing this blog because nag-sink in sa kin na ikakasal na si Beloy at Noreen. Ang alam ko December or earlier pa, that is pag naayos ang papers nila sa China, kung hindi pa, baka 1st quarter of 2009. Dumating na si Beloy nung Monday from Shanghai to fix his working visa and since magwowork na rin si Noreen sa university na pinagtuturuan ni Beloy, they have to stay in one roof thus, they have to get married. In our religion, live-in is a no-no so walang choice but ipakasal sila. Nauna pa sila kay Ate and mixed emotions ako... I'm happy for them at the same time sad kasi may isa akong sibling na lalagay na sa tahimik at nauna pa sa kin... kamusta naman yon? Tapos feeling ko wala akong pinapatunguhan. Work lang ako ng work then what? Haaayyy... But, I'm excited na rin mag-ayos ng wedding nila in fairness... =) Tapos meron pang ganitong eksena last night sa dinner table...

Beloy: Pa, kailangan bang palitan ko na rin status ko sa passport ko pag nagpakasal kami ni Bobs (Noreen's nickname)?

Papa: Hindi pa naman. Pag tinanong ka sa embassy bakit hindi Married ang status mo edi sabihin mo nung kumuha ka ng passport single ka, tapos nagpakasal ka a year after and hindi pa kailangan i-renew yung passport kaya ganon.

Tahimik lang akong kumakain ng biglang...

Papa: Bakit magpapakasal na kayo ni Noreen hindi mo muna paunahin ang Ate mo (ano ba naluluha ako dito habang tina-type ko to... *lunok*)

Ako: Pa, nang-aasar ka ba? (sabay tawa. At si papa ay hindi tumatawa at seryoso ang itsura)

Papa: Hinde.

Ako: Wala ngang boyfriend eh... (tawa ulit)

Kamusta naman yon... salamat sa pagra-rub in di ba?! Lalo ko tuloy nafi-feel na walang pinatutunguhan ang buhay ko. Although, happy pa naman ako sa work ko and sa mga religious activities namin in fairness... Tapos tuloy ang dinner after ng usapan...

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